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Why I Won’t be Watching What to Expect…

In an entertainment article that came out on MSN.com today, Jennifer Lopez and Cameron Diaz share their thoughts on child birth. The best way I can describe my feelings after reading the little entertaining piece is: pissed.

Jennifer is a mother. Cameron is not. They both give descriptions of birth that sound down right horrific. The way they make it sound no matter if you have a C-Section or Vaginal Birth it’s all messy and gross and scary. Cameron goes as far as to say,

Cameron Diaz: “I was looking at it like, ‘Oh, my God!’ But the vaginal delivery was crazy — no man should ever see it! Never let a man see that. Never.”

Really Cameron? You’re going to put that out there when the only experience you have in the delivery room is watching a birth happen. Let me share a little something with you, sister:

Vaginal birth is natural and no one is forcing your husband/partner/boyfriend down to that end of the bed, but a lot of them end up down there and most of them go on to live  life with a new respect for their wife and the same desire for them that they’ve always had. Giving birth vaginally can be scary and slightly gross and like nothing that you’ve ever experienced, but it is also absolutely beautiful and empowering and truly a miracle.Yo Cameron! You witnessed a life come into this world and your only takeaway was this?

I don’t care if you’ve had a C-Section. I really don’t. But if you’re like J. Lo and you react to it by saying this:

Jennifer Lopez: “I had a C-section, but my sister gave birth six months later — we got pregnant around the same time — and she asked me to be in the delivery room with her, and I was, like, ‘Wow!’ Because I had twins and that was recommended for me to have a C-section, and there was a part of me [that] had thought, ‘I didn’t get to do it the way that everybody else does.’ But when I saw my sister pushing that baby out, I was like, ‘Maybe this was all right! Maybe this was a better out.’ So that was an experience.”

A better out? I’m not really sure how to take that. A better out of having to deliver your children? A better out is having a C-Section? A better way of getting your children out? I’m not really sure.

I totally understand that birth experiences vary from woman to woman and I also totally understand that these two actresses are not doctors or midwives and that they are trying to sell a movie based on a book. A book I chose not to read while pregnant. I just hate that birth continues to be shown by our media as something gross, nasty and painful. I hate that more women don’t get to experience the absolute awe of working so hard to push your baby out and the overwhelming feeling of empowerment after giving birth. More than anything I hate that women who read this article will fear doing something that their body is meant to do or  if a C-Section is necessary they will be left with the images that Jennifer and Cameron discuss so graphically.

Lotto Fever

With an estimated jackpot at half a billion dollars, lotto fever is sweeping over our country. I’d love to say that even though there is more of a chance that we will be struck by a meteorite or lightning that we haven’t bought some tickets, but we have.

It’s a nice distraction. In Reno, NV (the city with the second highest unemployment and foreclosure rates in the USA) we can use distractions like this. It’s fun to imagine what we would do that with that money. It’s fun to think about how life changing it would be.

We’ve purchased tickets and today has been full of day dreaming and what ifs…

At the top of my list would be paying off all of our debt, creating a trust for our child, hiring a personal trainer, getting new cars, helping out charities, friends and family that mean a lot to us.

The thing that I enjoy thinking about the most? Not budgeting. I’m the money manager in our family and I find myself budgeting everyday. I run the numbers constantly, trying to gauge how much room we have in our budget to have fun, eat out, pay off debt, etc. I have Spreadsheets, online budget tools and Dave Ramsey.

The Type A Control Freak in me loves it. The Type B in me doesn’t love it.

What would you do if you never had to worry about money again? What is a life like that like?

A visit with Uncle James

My not so little brother came to visit us last weekend. Soon, he will be moving to Austin, TX for a big job in a big city. I’m so proud of him and excited for the opportunities I know he has coming.

We had a great time visiting with him, eating sushi and pizza, watching The Hunger Games, and watching him play with Henry. Henry is now at the age where he loves to jump and wrestle. He loved having an extra adult in the house to show off for. We’re pretty sure that Uncle James taught Henry to lick other people’s faces. At least that’s a new skill that has come to light this week. Sorry kids at daycare! It’s a phase, I promise, well, I think it is.

I wouldn’t say that Uncle James has the most traditional babysitting methods.

Case  in point:

Exhibit A

Uncle James and Henry

The "Hold Them by the Hood" method of toddler restraint.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Exhibit B

Uncle James and Henry with rake

The double arm hold to prevent said toddler from running into the suburban street. Notice the keen attention to detail so the rake borrowed from the neighbor's 3 year old is not left behind.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Exhibit C

The retreat. A good babysitter knows when to throw in the towel.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Henry – 1 Year

Dear Henry,

You are one. It’s unbelievable to me how much you’ve changed this year. You went from being an itty bitty newborn to a rambunctious, adventurous, confident toddler. You are walking and starting to talk. You love to give hugs and laugh. Sometimes you try to get a group of adults to laugh by laughing at them. It’s the cutest thing I’ve ever seen.

Your dad and I say to each other every day, “I just can’t believe how much I love him.”

You are our world.

You love people and you aren’t scared of anything (except the blender, you hate the sound of it). You have lots of buddies at daycare and you love to hang out with the big boys. You don’t like bullies and you get upset when your friends wrestle each other. You always want to keep the peace.

Your daycare teachers love you because you’re easy going. You’ve just started throwing tantrums at home. They are so cute that your dad and I can’t help but laugh. You stomp your little feet and sometimes you stretch out flat on the floor.

You eat everything we give you, but your favorites are yogurt, mac ‘n cheese, mandarin oranges and cinnamon toast. You like to slip your food to the dogs.

You love to follow our cat Louie around the house and tackle hug him. He’s very patient with you.

This is you on your birthday:

We had a big party and you loved having all your friends in your house.

We love you Henry! Happy 1st Birthday!

Henry – 10 Months

Dear Henry,

A couple of days ago you turned 10 months. I can hardly believe it. We’re getting ready to celebrate your first Christmas and I think Daddy and I are more excited about this than anyone else! We went absolutely overboard with your Christmas gifts, even though we know that you will most likely play with boxes, tissue paper and ribbon. We are taking you on your first long road trip this week. 8 hours to Grandma and Grandpa’s house in Park City. We know you are going to have a blast climbing the stairs and hanging out with Grandpa. He’s quickly becoming your favorite pal.

Henry's First Christmas Ornament

It’s hard to describe how the last 10 months of our lives have changed. You will never know the enormity of it until you hold your first born. Watching you grow and change is the most amazing gift. Your life has given our lives new meaning and a better appreciation for the world. You’re teaching us patience, how to love unconditionally and how to laugh and play again. Watching you explore is like living my childhood over again. EVERYTHING is new to you. EVERYTHING is worth exploring. EVERY person worth knowing. EVERY dog worth kissing.

You laugh so much and it is sublime to watch the laughter move through your entire body. How quickly we forget what it’s like to enjoy laughter that way.

You are attending daycare full time and you love it. I feel guilty that I can’t stay home with you, but every morning you greet your teachers and friends and get straight to playing. You play so hard that the teachers are having a hard time getting you to slow down and eat. You’ve quickly mastered the play gym and climb the stairs constantly. You have a whole group of friends and you crawl as fast as you can across the room. Yesterday night you took a few steps on your own. So exciting to watch you master one step after another!

Last month, we had you baptized. You were talking to your friend Lillian the entire time and handled the baptism like a champ. Your Godparents helped us throw you a party afterwards at their house. You had a good time hanging out with your friends, crawling around and eating crumbs.

All Dressed Up

You have 6 teeth and are eating everything in sight. You are no longer a fan of baby food. You want to eat what we eat and sometimes you will rip food right out of our hands. Your favorites right now include sweet potatoes, yogurt, lunch meat, cheerios and bananas. On Thanksgiving you ate an entire bowl of mashed potatoes, turkey and all the trimmings. You are slowly mastering the sippy cup.

Sleeping through the night is still something we are trying to master. Raising you has changed our understanding of what sleeping through the night means. As brand new parents we thought once you started sleeping long stretches that it would be smooth sailing. Turns out that is not the case at all. Some babies may sleep through the night early on. You are not one of them. It is getting better though. Most nights throughout the week you only get up once, usually around 4 a.m. Some nights you get up twice. You might be hungry or you might just want to cuddle. We are getting better at understanding which is which. You do give us some great nights of sleep occasionally. We are thankful for the reprieve. 6 hours of sleep is the new 8!

We love you so much and can’t believe how quickly this 10 months has gone. Soon we will be celebrating your first birthday and then you’ll be going to kindergarten and then you’ll be driving and then off to college. People told us how quickly this would go, but we truly had no idea until you arrived.

My "Little" Guy's Hand

Merry Christmas my little munchkin!
Love,

Mommy & Daddy