Category Archives: Reception

Bridesmaid Dress

Roaming through the older posts that I’ve done I realized that I’ve been a bit of a tease. I tell you I will update you and then I don’t. It’s not nice really.

If you recall, months ago I was on the hunt for navy bridesmaid’s dresses, seeing as I have 7 (SEVEN) bridesmaids who all have different body shapes, tastes, and preferences.

I’ve been a bridesmaid a couple of times (3) and wanted to be sensitive to the dress situation since I’ve had a few horrible dress shopping incidents myself.

Anyway, if you forgot who the contenders were you can take a gander here.

The winner was:

Alfred Angelo Style 7017S

Imagine that dress, but tea length and not long. I went with navy with a kiwi sash. The dress is surprisingly light weight and will make an excellent beachy, but formal dress. The girls say they like it, but hello, they have to.

I really focused on finding a dress that I thought everyone would like, but when it comes down to it finding that perfect dress for everyone is a lot like that fairytale “The Traveling Pants” or whatever the hell that book/movie is called.

Instead I had a few bridesmaids with different body shapes try the dresses that had made the final cut. This dress, with it’s A-line, strapless cut was definitely the winner.

Table Linens and Settings

I’ve been trying to picture our reception decor. I was looking for a place that rents table linens when I came across this site. BBj Linens has an interactive Design Your Event Table feature that allows you to try out different types of tablecloths, runners, napkins and chairs. It’s a lot of fun!

BBj Linens Design Your Event Table

Use the Design Your Event Table to Visualize Your Reception

This is pretty close to what I had in mind, but it may be a bit much for the Caribbean. Also, table linens are ridiculously expensive to rent – like $35/tablecloth so I’m not so sure that this is something I absolutely have to have. It is fun to play with though and imagine a room full of gorgeous tables.

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Ixnay on the Garter Toss

Travis and I have reached a decision about our wedding reception that bucks tradition. We will not have a garter or bouquet toss.

Garter toss - I think Ill pass

Garter toss - I think I'll pass

I’ve never been a fan of the garter toss mostly because I think it is in bad taste. The sweaty, drunk groom clamors underneath the wedding gown while the DJ plays nasty, raunchy music. Then he struggles out from under the dress and throws the garter to a group of waiting bachelors who treat the garter like a prize piece of the bride. No thanks.

Maybe it is the Puritan in me or the feminist, but I have no interest in having a piece of my lingerie thrown to a mob of young bachelors.

On the opposite side, I’ve never had a problem with the bouquet toss, but it seems out of balance to do one and not the other.

I know we aren’t the only ones not to do a garter toss. Our friends Joe and Carrie got married a few weeks ago and Joe flat out refused to do the garter toss. Our friends Rachel and Caleb didn’t do one either.

I was a little curious as to why the garter toss even exists so I did a little research. Here’s what HCCGarters.com has to say:

“Tossing the wedding garter is an old tradition.  It is said that in the days of old the bride and groom had to consummate their marriage.  But in order for it to be proven it was common tradition to have people like family and friends come into the room with the couple to witness it.  The “witnesses” would obtain the garter as “proof” of the consummation.   Also having any article of the under garments was considered to be good luck so sometimes things would get out of hand in the newly wed’s bedroom as crazed onlookers snatched at clothing to get for good luck.  This was not appreciated much by the bride nor many grooms, hence the groom started tossing the garter out so that no one would need to obtain it themselves.

Because of modesty, this tradition has been modified and moved from the bedroom to the reception.   Now today we have the traditional garter toss, which is meant to bring good luck to the man who catches it.  He is said to be the next one to marry.  In some cultures the men stand and wait for the garter to be tossed.  Other cultures they actually compete for it.  The men may compete for the garter in a foot race or by horse (this is a medieval practice).  At least it is better than having the men chase the bride and put her upside down to get the garter off… This is what used to happen!  In yet other places, they even auction the garter off.  As strange as these twists on the wedding garter tradition may sound they are all just traditions.  Take’ em or leave’ em.”

Gross! Leave them, thanks.

I have to say that as a wedding guest I’ve never really enjoyed either of these events. Didn’t enjoy the garter toss for the aforementioned reasons. The bouquet toss was always a reminder of how painfully single I was and I never enjoyed being called out on the dance floor.

I found some great ideas about alternatives to the garter toss at Wedding Bee (love that site BTW). Perhaps, we will use one of these ideas. Anyone have some recommendations or ideas?

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