My friend Lynette did a High Fidelity series on her blog. I found it in her archives (because I’m snoopy and like reading about her wedding planning). I love the idea of documenting the relationships that brought me to Travis.
So here’s a little synopsis of High Fidelity (from IMDB):
“High Fidelity follows the ‘mid-life’ crisis of Rob, a thirty-something record-store owner who must face the undeniable facts – he’s growing up. In a hilarious homage to the music scene, Rob and the wacky, offbeat clerks that inhabit his store expound on the intricacies of life and song all the while trying to succeed in their adult relationships. Are they listening to pop music because they are miserable? Or are they miserable because they listen to pop music? This romantic comedy provides a whimsical glimpse into the male view of the affairs of the heart.
Rob gets ditched (yet again) by his current femalething. This catalysts a sordid self examinatory process about all his failed relationships. It’s centred around his record shop, and coloured by his two motley socially inadequate assistants.
Arrested development confronts 30-something Rob Gordon when Laura, his smart and successful lover, leaves him because he hasn’t changed since they met. He reviews his top five worst breakups (he constantly makes top five lists, though usually about music). He recalls each breakup, reconnects with these former loves to find out why they dumped him, and wallows in misery from losing Laura. Much of it plays out at his vinyl record store where he and two clerks, socially-inept savants, live and breathe obscure contemporary music. Rob makes fruitless attempts to win Laura back, indulges in new relationships laced with fantasy, and tries introspection. What will Laura do?”
The past year of being engaged has given me a lot of time to reflect on past relationships and what brought me to a place where I was ready to be committed. Everyone will tell you that being in a relationship requires work, but what they don’t say is how you are constantly working on yourself. It takes a lot of reflection and looking inward to give yourself completely to another person.
So on that note, I’m starting my own High Fidelity series, but I won’t be contacting ex-boyfriends to discuss how and why things went south. I am firmly on the side of the fence that does not believe in being friends after a break up. It’s like my girl Oprah says, “It’s called a break up because it’s broken.”
There are certain exemptions, which you will see in my posts. Pretty much anyone who came before the age of 16 is exempt from the
no friends clause.