Monthly Archives: September 2009

Five Love Languages

In the midst of choosing a color scheme, booking the church, choosing a dress and oohing and ahhing over every teensy tiny wedding detail I thought it was important to  spend an equal amount of time focusing on the actual marriage. Afterall, A Wedding is a Day, A Marriage is a Lifetime (I totally stole that from the Engaged Encounter).

So I’ve been spending some time finding books that are relevant to relationships and the first on my list was The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Committment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman. This book was recommended by a couple of my friends and even a few who had studied psychology. I’m not ashamed of the self-help genre and I thought I would give this book a try.

Just to clarify – I am still gloriously in love with Travis and besides the normal squabbles we have over things like dishes, laundry, and taking the dog out, we have a pretty amazing relationship. But I think marriage is a relationship that requires you to be present and it should be treated with some preventative maintenance (I’m the daughter of an engineer so forgive random phrases like preventative maintenance). Why not put the time in now to learn more about marriage and healthy relationships rather than putting in the time later when you are knee deep in misery and can’t remember what that in love feeling felt like?

The idea of the book is that every person expresses and feels love in a different way. These are broken down in to Five Love Languages – Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Services, and Physical Touch.

Each language is described in detail and the author gives examples of couples who have had problems in their marriage and overcome them by exploring their spouse’s love language.

What I like about this book is that it provides advice that is easy to start implementing right away. Once I started reading the book it was easy to identify my love language. They weren’t a big surprise to me. My primary language is Words of Affirmation and my secondary language is tied between Quality Time and Physical Touch.

The book is an easy read and there is even a quiz to help you determine what your love language is. The great thing about this book is that it applies to more than just married couples. I would recommend it to anyone who is interested in learning more about how to communicate love to the people in your life.

You can check out the author’s site here –

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Booking a Catholic Church in 11 Easy Steps

1.  Call church as soon as you get engaged. Find out about pre-marital requirements for a Catholic wedding.

2. Join a local Parish (so this only applies if you’ve been naughty and haven’t attended church regularly)

3. Speak with local Parish priest about pre-marital requirements.

4. Plan to attend Engaged Encounter. Save up your moola (this cost us $200 large). Find out from local Parish the deets about the next Encounter.

5. Attend Engaged Encounter. Fall in love all over again.

6. Keep calling church to try and book wedding date.

7. Have wedding planner stalk church secretary in hopes of booking the church.

8. Try, try again.

9. Success!

10. Go with the flow. You play by the Church’s rules. End of story. So if they say, “You can only get married at 10 a.m. or 12 p.m.,” there are no negotiations.

11. Finish pre-marital counseling with local priest.

And that is my 11-Step plan on how to book a Catholic church for your destination wedding. Start early and keep trying. I called the Church for the first time in March and we just booked this week. Perseverance people, perseverance.

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Plane Tickets

planeWe bought our plane tickets today! Yippee!

$284/each way on American Airlines from Reno. This is a great price and I’m so excited that we have the dates set in stone for when we will arrive!

Here’s a fun fact – American Airlines will create a special discount code for your special event or wedding. It is 5% and valid for a week before and a week after your event. Check out for more info.

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Operation Second Wedding Dress

Mmmmmkay. So the second wedding dress did not go as planned. It arrived from David’s Bridal – beautifully packaged, surprisingly. I tried it on and immediately realized that there was a little too much decolletage showing. I’m not scared of cleavage, but this dress is not something that I would have felt comfortable dancing in around my parents, brother, grandparents and various other family members and friends who don’t need (or want, for that matter) to see the Ta-Tas.

So now I’ve got to find another second wedding dress.

Also, I should admit that I did read the reviews about this dress on Davids Bridal and many, many women wrote about how low this V-Cut dress is. I however, in all my stubborness, decided that this would not apply to me.

Yeah, about that.

I should have taken heed. It was a gorgeous dress and would have been perfect except for the part where my boobs were barely covered. That was a small problem.

I’ll be looking for something similar, in the same price range, and more coverage for the, ahem, girls.

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Second Wedding Dress

Prepare for wedding gluttony.


I bought a second wedding dress.

My wedding planner had suggested I think about a second dress because brides on St. Croix often opt for a traditional gown only to be overcome by the heat about halfway through the reception. At first, I thought this sounded a tad too much.

Truly? A second wedding dress? Possibly a way for the wedding industry to find just one more way to separate me from my hard earned dolla dolla bills?

Then I tried #1 dress on again and boy, was it heavy! Heavier than I had remembered.

Not my first or second wedding dress, but perfect for a NASCAR theme

Not my first or second wedding dress, but perfect for a NASCAR theme

Of course, my wedding budget is not gigantic and I’m a bargain shopper so I started looking around with the mindset that I would only purchase a second dress if it was a deal.

Ta-Da! David’s Bridal delivered an amazing bargain from their sale section. A much less formal, less traditional gown for only $110! Now that was a deal I could get behind. Plus, the second dress is something that I may be able to wear again.

Did I mention the dancing? No? Well, I fully intend on shaking my moneymaker (but not in a dirty, trashy way – Wedding Pet Peeve #3) at our reception. I’m thinking the light weight dress will make that a lot easier.

I’m still waiting for the dress to get here so I can try it on. Crossing my fingers that it fits!

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